As I write this blog, it’s very nearly the deepest, darkest, shortest day, winter solstice (21st December). In Chinese medicine this time resonates with the water element. The element is often physically expressed via issues with our kidneys and bladder. Emotionally it’s represented by fear.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I see this in my menopausal patients time and time again. And in myself. Why are we fearful?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Water imbalance is a natural part of aging and so is menopause. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Whether menopause happens because of naturally aging, illness or a medical treatment (that has flicked our fertility switch to ‘off’) it can be an incredibly fear-provoking time. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
It’s deep and we could debate it for the rest of our lives, but I believe it’s cultural, social and personal. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Cultural because in the west (mostly) we don’t prize aging. Social because there’s enormous pressure to look young and personal because so many of us don’t acknowledge our own value. And it doesn’t help that a drop in oestrogen often robs us, physiologically, of our confidence. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Fear really resonates with me in menopause. Fear paralyses just like water freezes. Fear can make us doubt our ability, our strength and feel unconnected to others. It’s often beyond our conscious awareness. We’re afraid of illness, death, being judged, the unknown, being out of control.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
How can we work with our fear and find confidence?
* Acknowledge it, embrace it and hold it’s hand work with it not against it. ⠀⠀
* Look honestly at our strengths to find our inner resources that we can depend on⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
* Seek out others who can complement our weaknesses for external support⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
My dad taught me that 99% of the time what you fear won’t happen. It’s so much better to live than to fear. I’m with you, let’s let go of fear together. Who’s in?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Photo credit; Sarah Doole
About Jo Darling MBAcC Lic Acu
Jo is a Brighton-based Acupuncturist with a Bachelor of Science degree in Acupuncture from the University of Greenwich. Her training includes western medicine pathology, physiology and anatomy. She is also a member of the British Acupuncture Council.
Jo is passionate about women’s health. She has helped 100’s of women live healthier, happier lives. She has spent over 10 years practicing acupuncture, traditional Chinese medicine, reflexology and Chinese herbs.
As well as fertility, pregnancy and natural menopause Jo specialises in the treatment of breast cancer patients particularly those thrown into early menopause by chemotherapy. This work inspired Menopoised.
For more information about her work visit her website.
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